Rimming: Yes or No?

Rimming

This is only opinion based solely on personal experience.

Analingus, or rimming, is less openly discussed than other sexual activities. It’s a relatively taboo subject and I think that “nice” girls are not supposed to enjoy either giving it or receiving it. And, whether you’re male or female, can you ask or expect your partner, male or female, to engage in it.

What is it exactly? From the urban dictionary: “The art of licking the asshole to get your partner off.” Or, to stimulate them prior to intercourse or masturbation.

I can’t remember the first time I experienced rimming as a receiver. One of my lovers of several years did seem to enjoy performing analingus on me. I was surprised that during a session in bed, she encouraged me to straddle her face and then guided my crotch down to her mouth. I must admit that the sensation was amazing. I’d had my female partners lick my balls over the years but this was far more intimate and sensual. I thought that was where we were headed until I felt her tongue graze my rectum. It was so erotic my erection seemed to harden even more. I actually reached behind myself and spread my butt cheeks to allow her easier access. I gently lowered my body and her lips covered my rectal area and her tongue stimulated my anus.

We developed a pattern that she enjoyed immensely. As she tongued me, I’d reach down with both hands and tweak her nipples. She had very sensitive nipples and thoroughly enjoyed having them pinched as I rode her mouth. After five to ten minutes of this, she’d reach behind me and forcefully shove me down to lick her clit as she came in a powerful orgasm. We’d quickly move into standard missionary position and she’d achieve several more climaxes until I got mine.

From rumors, I think that male to male analingus is pretty common. I’ve had both good and not so good experiences with male partners. Several years ago in an MMF bisexual threesome, I playfully pressed the head of my cock against his rectum with no intention of penetration. When I pulled back and looked down, I could see fecal matter on the head of my cock. Not cool. Where’s the soap and water?

About a year ago, in an MMF bisexual threesome, our male partner had come straight from the pool in a nudist resort to our room. He was kneeling on the bed while my female partner performed oral sex on him. I was behind him and decided to rim him while she sucked him. He smelled of pool chlorine and it was like he had just stepped out of the shower. I spread his cheeks and licked his butt to his great pleasure. I enjoyed it too. It was very erotic.

Recently, on a sexually explicit website I read responses to this question. There were numerous responses by people expressing how much their girlfriend and wives enjoyed it.

As in all sexual activity, cleanliness is an important factor. I remember once loaning our guest bedroom to a married friend to meet her lover. After they left, I went to clean the room and found that our towels definitely needed a trip to the laundry with beach. Any anal contact can result in transfer of unexpected material not to mention bacteria. Showers are good. Enemas are good too.

Should you engage in anal sexual activity? That’s each person’s choice. Your partner’s agreement is of utmost importance. Assume agreement but listen for the No word.